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Master Don Juan
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Knowing ur the bad ass man u r....would u marry for cash...I met some girls who would. Are guys any different?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Did you get some sort of sweet settlement deal out of it?Bible_Belt said:Would you marry for money?
I did. And I think I am the only divorced guy on here who does not regret getting married.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It was more like a sweet marriage deal. Her parents own a resort hotel in the Caribbean. They paid our rent for years. I qualified for student loans due to being married, at 21 I would otherwise have not. She got a green card and vastly reduced college tuition. And they flew us down to see them at Christmas.zekko said:Did you get some sort of sweet settlement deal out of it?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt said:Would you marry for money?
I did. And I think I am the only divorced guy on here who does not regret getting married.
I did. And I think I am the only divorced guy on here who does not regret getting married.
Lol this. The only men getting screwed over in divorce are the ones foolish enough to provide for a woman.It was more like a sweet marriage deal. Her parents own a resort hotel in the Caribbean. They paid our rent for years. I qualified for student loans due to being married, at 21 I would otherwise have not. She got a green card and vastly reduced college tuition. And they flew us down to see them at Christmas.