Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don't you already have a job even though it doesn't pay you as much?
Does she currently like to "take care of you"? Do you guys relate decently? Is she giving you good sex?
Yep. Doesn't mean I would stop working, would just live a very comfortable life.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yep she treats me well and sex is frequent with her initiating as much as me although she keeps pushing for equality in household decisions and sometimes fights submitting (power play?) even though she admits that I wear the pants. She has said she wants to have joint bank accounts ''what's hers is mine and what's mine is hers''... so I'm thinking of doing what women do and marry for the comfortable life and buying expensive sh!t.
Would you rather a female like her or a br0ke b1tch whose always in your pockets? I think a female with assets who also likes to splurge on you and f0ck you well is a great thing. Best of all worlds.
See, this is how I know I still have some morals ingrained in my brain. I don't like your idea AT ALL, but why? What's wrong with it? Why would you not do what they do? I sitll have a lot of unplugging to do. I say go for it, it clearly benefits you.
2 years.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I fully agree, depending on a woman money will surely bring drama in the future, and one of the best things you can do to live happy is to be frugal. But if the OP wants it, I dont see why not. What I meant is that I read his post and I inmediatly thougth "what a sissy boy, depending on a woman's money", but that's the work of the Femenine Imperative.
It wouldn't be a manipulative tool if you were married to her with joint bank accounts would it? I'm anti marriage myself, but OP has a 2 year record and should play this scenario to his advantage.
To be honest, she is making it sound like a good deal..BUT.. I know down the track she will over-ride a decision I make due to it being her earning the most. There is almost 100% chance of that happening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
