"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Would you/have you had sex with a girl that your friend had previously had sex with?

ersit

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Surprisingly, this has come up a couple times in my life. Frankly, it weirds me out. I live in a very small town and I'm friends with someone who's spent the past several years sleeping with half of the women in it. So far I've turned down three girls almost specifically because he's had sex with them in the past.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? To me, at the very least, it kills a chance of an actual relationship with the girl. If she were attractive enough, I might go for just the sex...and definitely wear a condom.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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realsmoothie

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Uh, yeah. A few times.

Just try not to think about it when you're going down on her...
;)
 

Nighthawk

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Meh, never bothered me. Worried you won't be as good as your friend? Or that you are sleeping with him by proxy, and that's a bit too gay?
 

Rudra

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Exes of friends are off limits to me.

This is a minefield. And a good way to lose friends. Don´t listen to what they say, no matter if they split up years ago or in a huge fight - just don´t do it.

It it´s not an ex but strictly a one night stand - why not.
 

ersit

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Not exes, just former hookups/**** buddies/one night stands. The thought of it just grosses me out for some reason. What I usually do is simply never ask about a girl's past - however, I still seem to find out if they've had sex with this guy. It's to the point now where I'm suspicious of every girl I meet - have they had sex with that guy?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Firepower

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If either of you both conceptualize it as competition, don't do it.

If done with camaraderie - like soldiers visiting a brothel - do it and high five him later.

Picture Animal Mother, Eightball and Miss "she give you numbah-one fookkee" from Full Metal Jacket.
 
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