Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Would you/have you had sex with a girl that your friend had previously had sex with?

ersit

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Surprisingly, this has come up a couple times in my life. Frankly, it weirds me out. I live in a very small town and I'm friends with someone who's spent the past several years sleeping with half of the women in it. So far I've turned down three girls almost specifically because he's had sex with them in the past.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? To me, at the very least, it kills a chance of an actual relationship with the girl. If she were attractive enough, I might go for just the sex...and definitely wear a condom.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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realsmoothie

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Uh, yeah. A few times.

Just try not to think about it when you're going down on her...
;)
 

Nighthawk

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Meh, never bothered me. Worried you won't be as good as your friend? Or that you are sleeping with him by proxy, and that's a bit too gay?
 

Rudra

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Exes of friends are off limits to me.

This is a minefield. And a good way to lose friends. Don´t listen to what they say, no matter if they split up years ago or in a huge fight - just don´t do it.

It it´s not an ex but strictly a one night stand - why not.
 

ersit

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Not exes, just former hookups/**** buddies/one night stands. The thought of it just grosses me out for some reason. What I usually do is simply never ask about a girl's past - however, I still seem to find out if they've had sex with this guy. It's to the point now where I'm suspicious of every girl I meet - have they had sex with that guy?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Firepower

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If either of you both conceptualize it as competition, don't do it.

If done with camaraderie - like soldiers visiting a brothel - do it and high five him later.

Picture Animal Mother, Eightball and Miss "she give you numbah-one fookkee" from Full Metal Jacket.
 
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