Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Would you forgive a kiss

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Glassguy

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Disrespectful actions = instant dismissal.

Once you tolerate disrespect it will only go farther and get worse because you have allowed the woman to get away with it.....and by not dismissing her it tells her that you are ok with her behavior.
 

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The only way I'd ever forgive a cheater in a serious relationship is if it was a mistake that won't happen again and the relationship was amazing.

If its a months long affair GTFO
if it was numerous times or multiple people GTFO
if she doesn't intend to change the offending behavior (getting too drunk/high without you, partying without you, too many orbiters/attention whoring, etc.) GTFO
if the relationship was less than great or she is less than satisfied with you GTFO.

If the relationship is less about kids/marriage/partnership/cohabitation and more about short to mid term fun then you can use it as leverage to transition into an open relationship or downgrade to FWBs/plate status or something.
there is no such thing as cheating being a ''mistake''
she disrespected you and lacks scarcity

i.e healthy scarcity : i am not gon cheat on him flirt with other men or even do anything that would piss him off cause im 'scared' to lose him.

if she cheated she just doesn't care about you any more , you pretty much lack values in her eyes.
 

Barrister

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If it is:

Plate -- I don't care, may cut loose depending on the circumstances but I am also out and about so it is hard to completely hold it against her;

LTR -- Instant dump and will not look back. There are way deeper issues in the relationship that simply are not worth dealing with. And if it happens once, chances are it will again.
 

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meh I would end in just being suspect of cheating, so I have zero tolerance.

undestand trust is easy to break, if you don't take care of it, when its broken there is no fixing
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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