"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Would you ever date a girl who smokes?
- Thread starter mcarioca
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
It's more than the smell, they age like twice as fast, long term a real no-no.
I am not that fond of smoking, and i dont smoke myself.... but if i really like a chick, then her smoking wont stop me from getting into a LTR with her, but as it was mentioned by mcarioca, they will "loose lots of valuable points" in my eyes's. And plus... maybe i'll be able to get her to STOP smoking?
Laterz...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
That depends upon how much she smokes.
If a gal is strictly a social smoker, who doesn't need to smoke at home, no problemo.
So none of the options in the poll are quite right for me.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I just found out that she didn't stink or taste bad because she didn't smoke regular cigarettes that had all the crap and preservatives soaked into it. She used tobacco that you had to roll yourself that did not have any of the extra crap (no it wasn't that kind of tobacco).
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Yes. As long as she's not a regular tobacco smoker, doesn't smoke anything in my house, and isn't into into heroin or irreversible brain damage drugs , like crack, MDMA, meth, etc.
In fact, I am dating a gal who smokes pot, and the last gal I was dating did, too.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.