"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Would you ever date a girl who smokes?
- Thread starter mcarioca
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
It's more than the smell, they age like twice as fast, long term a real no-no.
I am not that fond of smoking, and i dont smoke myself.... but if i really like a chick, then her smoking wont stop me from getting into a LTR with her, but as it was mentioned by mcarioca, they will "loose lots of valuable points" in my eyes's. And plus... maybe i'll be able to get her to STOP smoking?
Laterz...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
That depends upon how much she smokes.
If a gal is strictly a social smoker, who doesn't need to smoke at home, no problemo.
So none of the options in the poll are quite right for me.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I just found out that she didn't stink or taste bad because she didn't smoke regular cigarettes that had all the crap and preservatives soaked into it. She used tobacco that you had to roll yourself that did not have any of the extra crap (no it wasn't that kind of tobacco).
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Yes. As long as she's not a regular tobacco smoker, doesn't smoke anything in my house, and isn't into into heroin or irreversible brain damage drugs , like crack, MDMA, meth, etc.
In fact, I am dating a gal who smokes pot, and the last gal I was dating did, too.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.