"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Would you ever date a girl who smokes?
- Thread starter mcarioca
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
It's more than the smell, they age like twice as fast, long term a real no-no.
I am not that fond of smoking, and i dont smoke myself.... but if i really like a chick, then her smoking wont stop me from getting into a LTR with her, but as it was mentioned by mcarioca, they will "loose lots of valuable points" in my eyes's. And plus... maybe i'll be able to get her to STOP smoking?
Laterz...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
That depends upon how much she smokes.
If a gal is strictly a social smoker, who doesn't need to smoke at home, no problemo.
So none of the options in the poll are quite right for me.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I just found out that she didn't stink or taste bad because she didn't smoke regular cigarettes that had all the crap and preservatives soaked into it. She used tobacco that you had to roll yourself that did not have any of the extra crap (no it wasn't that kind of tobacco).
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Yes. As long as she's not a regular tobacco smoker, doesn't smoke anything in my house, and isn't into into heroin or irreversible brain damage drugs , like crack, MDMA, meth, etc.
In fact, I am dating a gal who smokes pot, and the last gal I was dating did, too.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.