ilikecharlene
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Say you disliked children (I'm not fond of them), would you consider it?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Would you date a woman with children?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Don't waste your precious time. Unless you are a single father, it's a horribly unbalanced situation that's monumentally unfair to the man. Consider the ex forever lurking about, tons of other MILFvckers who got her in their cellphone directories, etc.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
It's only ok if she beats the kids. That keeps them in line, and you're not allowed to beat them, so she has to do it. Otherwise, the kids are brats who ruin both of your lives.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I like children, I adore my 1 year old Nephew to pieces, but that said I wouldn't date a woman with children. As much as I like children, I don't want any of my own and I sure as hell don't want to care and look after anyone else's.
First off, take the advice of others and leave it alone. It's a hassle and you will be (and should be) second or third or last on her priorities. Since I have two kids myself, I find that dating women with kids automatically gives us something in common.
That being said, I dated two women recently with kids. The first had two baby-daddies and two sons, ages 8 and 9. They were misbehaved, squirrely little punks and I couldn't stand being around them for the little time I had to. She's totally out of the picture now.
The second had two teen daughters and the father was out of the picture. Having teens myself I knew she was doing a good job raising these kids and we had lots of common ground. In the end, I stopped seeing her because I wanted fun and adventure and she wanted a husband.
That being said, I dated two women recently with kids. The first had two baby-daddies and two sons, ages 8 and 9. They were misbehaved, squirrely little punks and I couldn't stand being around them for the little time I had to. She's totally out of the picture now.
The second had two teen daughters and the father was out of the picture. Having teens myself I knew she was doing a good job raising these kids and we had lots of common ground. In the end, I stopped seeing her because I wanted fun and adventure and she wanted a husband.
Young Juan
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Not anymore. Did that, from chicks with newborns to chicks with 5 kids. There's a imbalance in freedom/free time and discretionary spending/funds. I wanted to go out and do sh!t, she would always have to find a sitter, not to mention the money to pay for a sitter. She was broke most the time and got less hot as time passed
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I'm dating a girl with a child now! When she said she had a kid that threw me off big time because I was really feeling the chick. Worst part is I know the baby daddy. Even though he is way older then me we are in both the same fraternity at the same school (he pledged before me). I'm beating up my own frat members (K.O.'d 3) and now I'm dating their baby mommas. Whats the world coming too??
You can't help who you like though. I'm only dating 2 chicks (fine women that I'm really feeling the vibe with), but I'm talking/smashing 8 more chicks (cute girls that I refuse to take these girls out unless they pay). But I'll make sure I won't get too serious with this one. She'll just have the special place in the heart.
You can't help who you like though. I'm only dating 2 chicks (fine women that I'm really feeling the vibe with), but I'm talking/smashing 8 more chicks (cute girls that I refuse to take these girls out unless they pay). But I'll make sure I won't get too serious with this one. She'll just have the special place in the heart.
HariPoter13
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Man, you're full of good wisdom. The only reason I keep coming back to this forums is to read your postsBible_Belt said:
Btw, my dad used to beat me up when I was a kid. But now, looking back at it, I deserved all of it. It made me a better person and it built my character.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SgtSplacker
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I think Belt nailed this one. Nothing makes a kid more jealous than his mom showing someone else interest in front of them. It's always going to be a financial liability one way or another. Maybe mom will pay for the kids things but now mom doesn't have much money for herself. No matter what you end up paying for those kids who prolly hate your guts.Bible_Belt said:
Dating a girl with a kid is the exact definition of "chump". If you are ok being a chump, then go nuts.
No matter what the girl is like that you are dating, she is always thinking of how to get you to pay for her kids in the back of her mind. If she wasn't, she wouldn't be dating. Women who can actually pay for their kids because they have a nice career do not date.
No matter what the girl is like that you are dating, she is always thinking of how to get you to pay for her kids in the back of her mind. If she wasn't, she wouldn't be dating. Women who can actually pay for their kids because they have a nice career do not date.