"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Would you date a poor woman?

Heretolearn

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All about attitude not bank balance.

(the latter changes but hopefully the former is more developed and resilient)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Poor as living from food stamps, etc? Nope. I won't date a woman under those conditions.

But I would date a woman that comes from poor background and manage to overcome it by going to college and becoming an accomplished person. I would also date a woman that is going to college (e.g. PhD, etc.), even if she has a poor background or is poor. Because in that case, she has a future.

If she works in a department store and is out of College already...I won't date her. If she works in a food chain restaurant (and out of college)...I won't date her. If she is a waitress (and out of college)...I won't date her. If she works in a barber shop (not the very $$$ salons or spas)...I won't date her. If she does NOT work...I won't date her. If she is not educated (or at least going to college)...I MIGHT not date her (unless she is already rich).

Would I sleep with any of them? Maybe, although, unlikely. But I won't do the dating thing.
 

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( . )( . ) said:
I dont "date" regardless but as usual I agree with Rollo, worrying about a chicks financial status is not something men do, its for chicks.

Poor? who cares I still wont be paying for her sh!t and she still has a snatch yes?.
Men should worry about women financial status. You never know... you might fall in love with that woman. And seeing all her negatives can help you put things in perspective. Heck, can help you AVOID falling in "lust" (especially if that woman is real hot).

Therefore, the more data you have (while having a CLEAR mind) the better you are. You see? You don't want a woman that has a LOT of debts and LOT of bad spending habits in your life.

"Dating" for me = already being involved with that woman. Because I don't "date" unless I'm already intimate with that person.
 

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STR8UP said:
For a casual thing it doesn't matter at all.

The 20 yr old that I have been hooking up with has no money and doesnt even have a job to be able to make money anytime soon. The 33 yr old I have been seeing is polar opposite. Good job, big house, nice car, and money to spare. I haven't spent a penny more on either one of them than they have spent on me, so it doesn't matter.

If I were considering a girl for a long term thing, it doesn't matter if she is rich or poor but it DOES matter 100% what kind of attitude she has about money. If she doesn't have any money at the time but I can see that she is moving in the right direction I am willing to give it a chance. On the other hand even if she appears to be rich, if she doesn't show good judgement with money, I'm outa there.
That's the point I was trying to make too.
 
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