"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
would you date a girl with kids?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Wrong, only if you were to be such a beta that you would adopt her kids would you be liable for child support. Of course, you could be on the hook for maintaining her in the style she has been accustomed to (but that only seems to be an issue if you are loaded with cash.) But of course, if you were to be the legal father of a future child - which obviously could be actually yours, or some other man's, if she were to cuckold you and you were not able to prove paternity within the proper time frame - then you would be on the hook for that child, and your child support obligation would be determined by the total need of your child, which would probably be a bit more than it would be had she not already have kids. :kick:Drdeee said:
In general though, I have to wonder - what the f@#$ are you thinking?
Are you so horny that your inability to snare a proper maiden is making you consider a mommy?"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I don't think your assessment is totally correct. I have to think that the older widows (i.e., the classic widow of and old man) that are looking for a man don't have such an attitude. The ones that do have such an attitude will not be looking for a man.Robert28 said:
Now as for younger women who have kids to take care of, I can definitely see such a woman who still loves her man and sees her children from him as his legacy will go into super "look for a beta provider" mode. However, as such a woman would be basically prostituting herself (supply sex for provisioning) even more so than the standard single mommy, I tend to think that she will be highly motivated to keep a good stepdad around (i.e., she could be the best girlfriend experience 'ho around), and would probably go as far as to allow a beta's inferior sp3rm to fertilize her egg to help seal the deal.
I think if a man is going to go the beta stepdad route, a widow could be a better option - just don't have a kid with her if you don't want to (which of course, could only be done if the man were to get a vasectomy as a women always seem to have "accidents.")