Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
I've been out with a girl once this year and we've known eachother for more than 5 years. would it be a good idea to take her to my buildings pool or take it back to a dinner table?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Would you consider a pool date?
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I agree with J. Roc that you are very likely in friendzone due to the amount of time you've known her and having only had one date.
But if you want to try anyway, I would ONLY go to the pool if you have the body to pull it off. How do you look without a shirt on? You don't have to answer that here. It's just something to think about.
Otherwise, dinner is ok as long as you can sell the idea that you're a great cool who knows how to make a great xyz dish.
But if you want to try anyway, I would ONLY go to the pool if you have the body to pull it off. How do you look without a shirt on? You don't have to answer that here. It's just something to think about.
Otherwise, dinner is ok as long as you can sell the idea that you're a great cool who knows how to make a great xyz dish.