Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Would you comproimise your freedom if her father is the autoritarian one?

tesla8520

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You're with a woman you really get along with on almost every front.
Yet there's something you need to decide how to deal with: her father.
He's the classic authoritarian father, who wants to put his children on a path (be it academics, to give them a specific career, or life, with marriage, or something else).
This makes him a bit of a hindrance to her decisions in her life.

What do you do?
Do you give up some of your freedom and decision-making if it can bring you some other benefits (networking, status, money, access to things), or do you simply go your own way, and actually tell her "Look, we live my way, not your father way" even if this will actually compromise her too?
So do you side with him and take the advantages or do you go your own way?


What are your experiences?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Depends on whether I respect her father or not. Would you act the same as he does if it involved your daughter? Would you want your daughter to date a man like you?
 

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Hi tesla,
Unless you have some bizarre interest in her Old Man,he's not a problem....She probably finds you a breath of fresh air.
 

tesla8520

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Interesting POV's, but what would you guys be ready to compromise for a LTR, in that sense?
I always had to compromise that "freedom" feeling you have when being alone, which doesn't mean that I could go and have s3x with any woman I want, but was actually a mental freedom. A light weight mind, you know?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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