"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Would you comproimise your freedom if her father is the autoritarian one?

tesla8520

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You're with a woman you really get along with on almost every front.
Yet there's something you need to decide how to deal with: her father.
He's the classic authoritarian father, who wants to put his children on a path (be it academics, to give them a specific career, or life, with marriage, or something else).
This makes him a bit of a hindrance to her decisions in her life.

What do you do?
Do you give up some of your freedom and decision-making if it can bring you some other benefits (networking, status, money, access to things), or do you simply go your own way, and actually tell her "Look, we live my way, not your father way" even if this will actually compromise her too?
So do you side with him and take the advantages or do you go your own way?


What are your experiences?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Depends on whether I respect her father or not. Would you act the same as he does if it involved your daughter? Would you want your daughter to date a man like you?
 

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Hi tesla,
Unless you have some bizarre interest in her Old Man,he's not a problem....She probably finds you a breath of fresh air.
 

tesla8520

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Interesting POV's, but what would you guys be ready to compromise for a LTR, in that sense?
I always had to compromise that "freedom" feeling you have when being alone, which doesn't mean that I could go and have s3x with any woman I want, but was actually a mental freedom. A light weight mind, you know?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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