"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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would you be pissed at this friend or not

poohead

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if you had a friend that called you up and said hey, looks like i'm not going out with this chick tonight, you wanna hang out?

then you said, well i'm supposed to hang out with this girl but i'll call you if things fall through. then things fall though and you call him back and say ok let's hang out.

but then he says, well the chick called so i'm just going to hang out with her, so i'll see you later.

is this an A$$holish thing to do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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poohead

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he basically chose to hang out with a girl over a friend and left his buddy hanging.

i'm not blaming him about that, i still felt a bit betrayed. i'm not one to tolerate any measure of disrespect, and this is borderline.
 

spider_007

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poohead said:
then you said, well i'm supposed to hang out with this girl but i'll call you if things fall through. then things fall though and you call him back and say ok let's hang out.
you did the same thing (in a different way)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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poohead

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yes. because i am the man and i'm a cooler person to hang out with than any stupid chick.
 

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you're a poohead, poohead.

Are you starting to get jelous of guys now too poopy head?
 

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I know there's the whole golden rule of "bro's before ho's"...but dude, you two are friends; just because you didn't hang out with him that day, it doesn't mean you suddenly become strangers the next day. Just plan something with him later on and you'll kick it with your bro. I'm sure that if you had a girl that you've been hitting it off well with lately made plans with you, I'm sure you'd choose her over him.

Don't get so caught up about it; it's a different story if a girl flaked out on you, but this is your guy friend man. Relax
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The rule is that when theres a possibility for sex, your allowed to cancel plans with friends.

By the way Desdinova probably gave you the best and most direct response to your question.
 

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i've already ex communicated him as a friend and psychologically kicked his ass and ruined social opportunities for his children for the next two generations.
 

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This is stupid, peoples plans fall through all the time, whether it be with girls or not. If you want to avoid situation say to your friend, "hey I am supposed to be going out with ___ tonight but I am unsure of plans, what are you up to?" friend responds and you say, "alright, I'll give you a shout later then, unless things are going well...really well" laugh about that, and everybody happy.

--Mission
 

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Would you not hang out with the girl if you were in his shoes?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dude, there has been times when my friends would be en route to my house to go out and wouldnt' show up becuase they made an ***** detour... what are you doing to suck it for them?

Now, I do a great job of balancing my friends with women but there are some times plans have to be canceled in the prusit of good times :)
 
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