"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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would you be pissed at this friend or not

poohead

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if you had a friend that called you up and said hey, looks like i'm not going out with this chick tonight, you wanna hang out?

then you said, well i'm supposed to hang out with this girl but i'll call you if things fall through. then things fall though and you call him back and say ok let's hang out.

but then he says, well the chick called so i'm just going to hang out with her, so i'll see you later.

is this an A$$holish thing to do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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poohead

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he basically chose to hang out with a girl over a friend and left his buddy hanging.

i'm not blaming him about that, i still felt a bit betrayed. i'm not one to tolerate any measure of disrespect, and this is borderline.
 

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poohead said:
then you said, well i'm supposed to hang out with this girl but i'll call you if things fall through. then things fall though and you call him back and say ok let's hang out.
you did the same thing (in a different way)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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poohead

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yes. because i am the man and i'm a cooler person to hang out with than any stupid chick.
 

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you're a poohead, poohead.

Are you starting to get jelous of guys now too poopy head?
 

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I know there's the whole golden rule of "bro's before ho's"...but dude, you two are friends; just because you didn't hang out with him that day, it doesn't mean you suddenly become strangers the next day. Just plan something with him later on and you'll kick it with your bro. I'm sure that if you had a girl that you've been hitting it off well with lately made plans with you, I'm sure you'd choose her over him.

Don't get so caught up about it; it's a different story if a girl flaked out on you, but this is your guy friend man. Relax
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The rule is that when theres a possibility for sex, your allowed to cancel plans with friends.

By the way Desdinova probably gave you the best and most direct response to your question.
 

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i've already ex communicated him as a friend and psychologically kicked his ass and ruined social opportunities for his children for the next two generations.
 

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This is stupid, peoples plans fall through all the time, whether it be with girls or not. If you want to avoid situation say to your friend, "hey I am supposed to be going out with ___ tonight but I am unsure of plans, what are you up to?" friend responds and you say, "alright, I'll give you a shout later then, unless things are going well...really well" laugh about that, and everybody happy.

--Mission
 

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Would you not hang out with the girl if you were in his shoes?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dude, there has been times when my friends would be en route to my house to go out and wouldnt' show up becuase they made an ***** detour... what are you doing to suck it for them?

Now, I do a great job of balancing my friends with women but there are some times plans have to be canceled in the prusit of good times :)
 
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