"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would you ask out a girl from your sports group?

Eternal_water

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If you play at a sports club every week would you ask out one of the girls there? Baring in mind it may be awkward if she rejects you and you then see her each week at the club.

Would you risk that or no?

If you would there are a couple of girls at one of the clubs who are my age, early 20's, I would be interested relationships with and there are a couple of older women at a different one I play at that I would happily bang.

If you would risk trying for it how would you go about doing so in that environment?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AllDay85

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I would ask her anyway. If she rejects you, then she wasn't worth your time anyway. Awkward is a perception in each individuals own mind. It doesn't have to be that way for you regardless. Ask with confidence I'm sure she'll say yes.
 

VladPatton

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There is no risk. Zero. What are you losing? Nothing. You ask, see what happens, and if she says no, you walk in at the next meet like a fückin boss like nothing happened. Have strong character. You lost nothing, don't make things up in your mind. Trust me, the other girls won't laugh, there is nothing degrading about a man asking a female out. Good luck!
 

Tomo

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I second no such thing as awkwardness. Ask her out but know that once you ask out one chick, word does spread and locks you out from the others based on social game so make your choice wisely.

If it doesn't work out just be friendly with her.
 

skinnyguy

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GettinMyMindRight said:
Would you take a sip of water if you were thirsty?
Bad analogy. Water can't reject you. Point taken though. I think we all need a IDGAF attitude
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Huffman

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Would you ask out a girl from your sports group?
I read only the title of the thread and the answer is yes.
From the way you posed the question it's easy to see that you want to do it.

Now you'll spend days and weeks pondering, asking the forum, analyzing all possible outcomes, and in the end - what? You're going to ask her out.
Afterwards you'll feel silly for thinking so much about it, because there was really no other way.

Decision-making, here you go.
 
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