"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would you ask out a girl from your sports group?

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Eternal_water

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If you play at a sports club every week would you ask out one of the girls there? Baring in mind it may be awkward if she rejects you and you then see her each week at the club.

Would you risk that or no?

If you would there are a couple of girls at one of the clubs who are my age, early 20's, I would be interested relationships with and there are a couple of older women at a different one I play at that I would happily bang.

If you would risk trying for it how would you go about doing so in that environment?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would ask her anyway. If she rejects you, then she wasn't worth your time anyway. Awkward is a perception in each individuals own mind. It doesn't have to be that way for you regardless. Ask with confidence I'm sure she'll say yes.
 
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There is no risk. Zero. What are you losing? Nothing. You ask, see what happens, and if she says no, you walk in at the next meet like a fückin boss like nothing happened. Have strong character. You lost nothing, don't make things up in your mind. Trust me, the other girls won't laugh, there is nothing degrading about a man asking a female out. Good luck!
 
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I second no such thing as awkwardness. Ask her out but know that once you ask out one chick, word does spread and locks you out from the others based on social game so make your choice wisely.

If it doesn't work out just be friendly with her.
 
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GettinMyMindRight said:
Would you take a sip of water if you were thirsty?
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Bad analogy. Water can't reject you. Point taken though. I think we all need a IDGAF attitude
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Would you ask out a girl from your sports group?
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I read only the title of the thread and the answer is yes.
From the way you posed the question it's easy to see that you want to do it.

Now you'll spend days and weeks pondering, asking the forum, analyzing all possible outcomes, and in the end - what? You're going to ask her out.
Afterwards you'll feel silly for thinking so much about it, because there was really no other way.

Decision-making, here you go.
 
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