Would you ask for your stuff back?

[mikey2012]

if the cvnt left

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Depends what you want back. You sounds bitter and want it back out of spite.

 

[sylvester the cat]

I got my engagement ring back. Four years later.

 

[mangotot]

Off course I'll ask for it back. If it had a sentimental or monetary value attached.

 

[mikey2012]

Depends what you want back. You sounds bitter and want it back out of spite.

Stuff of monetary value that you could resell..stuff u got her when together..now she left she should not have the privelidge

 

[stevo]

Stuff you bought for her? like jewelry? (engagement ring excluded), why would you want it back? just to spite her?

Stuff like your belongings? you should

Stuff like joint owned (hopefully not a house), you could try.

It all comes down to the importance of the item to you rather than the satisfaction of hurting the other person by taking it from them.

If you sincerely care for the items, get them. If you don't stop wasting time dwelling on past and begin your healing process. Regardless she's gone.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Stuff you bought for her? like jewelry? (engagement ring excluded), why would you want it back? just to spite her?

Why should she want to keep it? Just to spite him?

 

[mikey2012]

Why should she want to keep it? Just to spite him?

lol yeah why would she...? why would she want to keep the memories.?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Agreed with Stevo.

-Gifts that you gave her (apart from engagement ring, or something of similar monetary value, e.g. car) should not be claimed back. I had a chick do this to me, which is incredibly spiteful and make you look like you were buying her affection, rather than simply giving to her because you wanted to (at the time, regardless of your feelings now).

-Mutually-owned items of significant monetary/sentimental value (car/pet dog/music/art) that you want or need for yourself, yes take back.

-Stuff that was yours anyway (car/pet dog/music/art) prior to being with her, or that you bought for yourself, yes, definitely take back. It's not hers and she can't argue otherwise.

Before you do, jus ask yourself what you want and why. Will having this stuff make your life better in the long run because you want or need it, even without her? Or do you just want an excuse to be in continued contact with her. Or do you just want to get back at her.

 

[mikey2012]

Agreed with Stevo.

-Gifts that you gave her (apart from engagement ring, or something of similar monetary value, e.g. car) should not be claimed back. I had a chick do this to me, which is incredibly spiteful and make you look like you were buying her affection, rather than simply giving to her because you wanted to (at the time, regardless of your feelings now).

-Mutually-owned items of significant monetary/sentimental value (car/pet dog/music/art) that you want or need for yourself, yes take back.

-Stuff that was yours anyway (car/pet dog/music/art) prior to being with her, or that you bought for yourself, yes, definitely take back. It's not hers and she can't argue otherwise.

Before you do, jus ask yourself what you want and why. Will having this stuff make your life better in the long run because you want or need it, even without her? Or do you just want an excuse to be in continued contact with her. Or do you just want to get back at her.

Of course its spite...if she was wearing a timex before and now she has a Patek on a wrist...wouldnt you want it back?

 

[sylvester the cat]

i misunderstood stevo when he said engagement ring excluded. i would never expect back stuff i gave as gifts. only the engagement ring.

 

[mikey2012]

How about a $40k patek?

 

[sylvester the cat]

How about a $40k patek?

an engagement ring signifies a bond between two people. when that bond is broken it would be the decent thing to hand the ring back to signify the bond is broken and the two people free to go their separate ways.

when you buy a $40k patek you are giving someone a gift from yourself as a symbol of your affection for them at the time with no obligation for the receiving party to give it back otherwise what kind of a symbol what it be if it were conditional? you are totally free to ask for it back but as possession is 9/10ths of the law it might prove difficult.

 

[mikey2012]

:crazy:

i won the lotto..why u care

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

How about a $40k patek?

How about, why are you spending 40K on a watch, and why are you spending that much on a gift? F*ck that; if I was given that as a gift, I wouldn't want to give it back either. If I had that money, I wouldn't be so careless with it.

I would suggest you look in to your legal rights to revoke the gift; seems like unless you actually have some written conditions of giving, you may not have the right to reclaim. Any law bods in the house....? :

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gift_(law)#Revocation

Finally, just because you have the cash, doesn't mean you have to spend it.

 

[stevo]

How about a $40k patek?

Who in their right mind buys a woman who's not their mother or daughter or wife (even questionable, better be joint named) a $40,000 anything? that pussie must have taken you somewhere you've never been.

Ok seriously, I dont see myself buying anything that highly priced for a girl but if I did, with my present mind frame I would definitely ask for that back especially if I'm still making payments to pay it off. Lawd have mercy. But if I'm ricccch then I'd over look it.

i misunderstood stevo when he said engagement ring excluded. i would never expect back stuff i gave as gifts. only the engagement ring.

We on the same page now? I definitely would not go back to take the bras I bought for a girl just because. .