"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Would you accept this apology?
- Thread starter styleman
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Two dealbreakers there, "angry AND irate "styleman said:
What are you doing with a woman like that for F's sake "
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Michele l'Arcangelo
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Or, you're incredibly smart and can completely analyze the OP's girlfriend's (?) personality by her apology and two words describing her bad moods.
Stop giving advice.
Anyways, if she is constantly complaining to you, and you don't get a moment with her where she is actually tolerable and happy... don't accept it, but warn her. If she's actually tolerable and happy, and occasionally comes to you to talk about her occasional problems, sure accept her apology.
But remember, a girl with emotional problems will just be a problem.
If you don't enjoy her company, find someone that is enjoyable.
prairiedog24
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Oookkkk. I think the OP specifically posted asking for advice, yes he was vague, but even discussing his vagueness helps him reason through it.Michele said:
But here's the real clincher:
The f*** is this... ADVICE?
Lets hear it one more time:
Awesome.