"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Would you accept this apology?
- Thread starter styleman
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Two dealbreakers there, "angry AND irate "styleman said:
What are you doing with a woman like that for F's sake "
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Michele l'Arcangelo
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Or, you're incredibly smart and can completely analyze the OP's girlfriend's (?) personality by her apology and two words describing her bad moods.
Stop giving advice.
Anyways, if she is constantly complaining to you, and you don't get a moment with her where she is actually tolerable and happy... don't accept it, but warn her. If she's actually tolerable and happy, and occasionally comes to you to talk about her occasional problems, sure accept her apology.
But remember, a girl with emotional problems will just be a problem.
If you don't enjoy her company, find someone that is enjoyable.
prairiedog24
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Oookkkk. I think the OP specifically posted asking for advice, yes he was vague, but even discussing his vagueness helps him reason through it.Michele said:
But here's the real clincher:
The f*** is this... ADVICE?
Lets hear it one more time:
Awesome.