"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I am finishing up college and I've been with a girl for a month or two now. Because of a religious upbringing, I have always avoided, sometimes just barely, losing my virginity. Through some twisted interpretation of my own values I have allowed myself to mess around but never to actually have sex. For reasons that aren't really important right now I have decided that I want to with this girl, and I'm debating whether or not to tell her I'm a virgin. She's only been with one person (and she got burned and is now going to have to be sold on it again if I want some) and she thinks I'm a player, so I can't figure out if it would hurt or help to let her know.

It seems that one the one hand telling her would make her think it was more special or meaningful and let her know that I'm not a "predator," but on the other hand it might lose me whatever respect she has for me because she thinks she's with a ladies' man (obviously not ENTIRELY true).

What do you guys think? Should I tell her or not?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yea man tell her straight up. Tell her, I'm a virgin, and I know you've slept around, and have some experience. So I want you to show me how to do it. Lead me towards this experience, be the girl!!

Let us know how it goes man.
 
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Neither of you need to know about one another's past sexual history.

"Don't ask, don't tell" isn't just for fags in the military.


It seems that one the one hand telling her would make her think it was more special or meaningful and let her know that I'm not a "predator," but on the other hand it might lose me whatever respect she has for me because she thinks she's with a ladies' man (obviously not ENTIRELY true).
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Women want sex just as much as we do, she might be wondering why you aren't fucking her already. There's nothing predatory about wanting to tag the girl you are dating.
 
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This is exactly why I held out for a virgin when I lost mine. I didn't want any of the experience bullshìt getting in the way. It was the most beautifully awkward 4 seconds of my life. It was hilarious in retrospect. But I wouldn't trade it for the best sex in the world with a HB10.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tell her you were a virgin until after sex....
 
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