I went to a party this past weekend that my friend threw and he introduced me to a couple of his friends. I hit it off with one of his friends, a girl, but I didn't ask for her number. I found her on facebook and thought about messaging her. What do I have to lose?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
would this be creepy?
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Did you look her up by name, or did you see her on another friend's page?
It'd be easy to brush off the "I looked you up" factor by saying "I saw your post on so-and-so's wall and figured I'd drop you a line." ...And even then, most likely it won't even come up.
It'd be easy to brush off the "I looked you up" factor by saying "I saw your post on so-and-so's wall and figured I'd drop you a line." ...And even then, most likely it won't even come up.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Yep, creepy. Ask your friend how you could catch up with her again. At least when you do connect again it won't seem as if you were secretly stalking her.
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On second thought, what Francisco said.
I only use Facebook for my actual friends, anyways.
I only use Facebook for my actual friends, anyways.
Lord Shinra
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Do it the old fashioned way. Run into her somewhere again.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Play the Game
Master Don Juan
Leave the online stalking to women...
Thanks for the input guys. I looked her up on my friend's friend list...maybe I can wait until she posts on his wall? Or...my friend throws a party every month or so, I'll just ask him to invite her again. I'm thinking the latter.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Good gosh man, tomorrow just ask him where you could find her so you can get down to business. No waiting for her to post something, no waiting for some other party, no thinking of some other non-direct way of hooking up with her. JUST DO IT! :woo:Jason#4 said:
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Don't be a dumbass! If she likes you then it doesn't matter how you get a hold of her, short of appearing outside her bedroom window at 3AM.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Don't be a dumbass! If she likes you then it doesn't matter how you get a hold of her
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
War Against Betaism
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Dude, just do it. Every time I meet a new person at a party, and don't ask for their number, I always look on the friend that introduced me to her/them friend's list and just add them. Sometimes they even add me first.
jesusrules
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I think its fine. Its not like your knocking on her door. If she gets creeped out by that then shes dumb dude.