I went to a party this past weekend that my friend threw and he introduced me to a couple of his friends. I hit it off with one of his friends, a girl, but I didn't ask for her number. I found her on facebook and thought about messaging her. What do I have to lose?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
would this be creepy?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Fred Da Head
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Did you look her up by name, or did you see her on another friend's page?
It'd be easy to brush off the "I looked you up" factor by saying "I saw your post on so-and-so's wall and figured I'd drop you a line." ...And even then, most likely it won't even come up.
It'd be easy to brush off the "I looked you up" factor by saying "I saw your post on so-and-so's wall and figured I'd drop you a line." ...And even then, most likely it won't even come up.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yep, creepy. Ask your friend how you could catch up with her again. At least when you do connect again it won't seem as if you were secretly stalking her.
Fred Da Head
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On second thought, what Francisco said.
I only use Facebook for my actual friends, anyways.
I only use Facebook for my actual friends, anyways.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Do it the old fashioned way. Run into her somewhere again.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Play the Game
Master Don Juan
Leave the online stalking to women...
Thanks for the input guys. I looked her up on my friend's friend list...maybe I can wait until she posts on his wall? Or...my friend throws a party every month or so, I'll just ask him to invite her again. I'm thinking the latter.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Good gosh man, tomorrow just ask him where you could find her so you can get down to business. No waiting for her to post something, no waiting for some other party, no thinking of some other non-direct way of hooking up with her. JUST DO IT! :woo:Jason#4 said:
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Don't be a dumbass! If she likes you then it doesn't matter how you get a hold of her, short of appearing outside her bedroom window at 3AM.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Don't be a dumbass! If she likes you then it doesn't matter how you get a hold of her
bingo
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Dude, just do it. Every time I meet a new person at a party, and don't ask for their number, I always look on the friend that introduced me to her/them friend's list and just add them. Sometimes they even add me first.
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
I think its fine. Its not like your knocking on her door. If she gets creeped out by that then shes dumb dude.