I went to a party this past weekend that my friend threw and he introduced me to a couple of his friends. I hit it off with one of his friends, a girl, but I didn't ask for her number. I found her on facebook and thought about messaging her. What do I have to lose?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
would this be creepy?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Fred Da Head
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Did you look her up by name, or did you see her on another friend's page?
It'd be easy to brush off the "I looked you up" factor by saying "I saw your post on so-and-so's wall and figured I'd drop you a line." ...And even then, most likely it won't even come up.
It'd be easy to brush off the "I looked you up" factor by saying "I saw your post on so-and-so's wall and figured I'd drop you a line." ...And even then, most likely it won't even come up.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yep, creepy. Ask your friend how you could catch up with her again. At least when you do connect again it won't seem as if you were secretly stalking her.
Fred Da Head
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On second thought, what Francisco said.
I only use Facebook for my actual friends, anyways.
I only use Facebook for my actual friends, anyways.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Do it the old fashioned way. Run into her somewhere again.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Play the Game
Master Don Juan
Leave the online stalking to women...
Thanks for the input guys. I looked her up on my friend's friend list...maybe I can wait until she posts on his wall? Or...my friend throws a party every month or so, I'll just ask him to invite her again. I'm thinking the latter.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Good gosh man, tomorrow just ask him where you could find her so you can get down to business. No waiting for her to post something, no waiting for some other party, no thinking of some other non-direct way of hooking up with her. JUST DO IT! :woo:Jason#4 said:
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Don't be a dumbass! If she likes you then it doesn't matter how you get a hold of her, short of appearing outside her bedroom window at 3AM.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Don't be a dumbass! If she likes you then it doesn't matter how you get a hold of her
bingo
bingo
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Dude, just do it. Every time I meet a new person at a party, and don't ask for their number, I always look on the friend that introduced me to her/them friend's list and just add them. Sometimes they even add me first.
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
I think its fine. Its not like your knocking on her door. If she gets creeped out by that then shes dumb dude.