"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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would these be IOD's?

nkh78h

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I've had some responses that I'm how to interpret. Basically, girls I say "hi" or make small talk may do one of the following:

1. She smiles but gives no verbal response.

2. She replies, but her responses are very short.

3. She replies, but she gets quieter and quieter.

Are these IOD's, or is she just shy? I personally think that (1) is an indicator of shyness, (3) is an IOD, while (2) can be both. Thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What the hell is an IOD? Is that like an IED?

You're over analyzing.
 

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Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
 

nkh78h

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IOD = indicator of disinterest.

And yeah, I agree that body language is probably the best sign.
 

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nkh78h said:
IOD = indicator of disinterest.
First I've heard of that term. You know, instead of being a geek and coming up with all sorts of analysis and abbreviations for terms no one asked... why don't you just talk to her like she's a person? You know, instead of looking at her as you would an experiment.

Girls aren't that complicated. You're simply over analyzing.

Just talk to her and don't kiss her ass just because she's a girl. Don't be nice but don't be a douche. Just treat her like a regular friend and do what you would do for a regular friend (ie. no favors just because she's a girl you like).

See what happens.

blueline said:
Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
Not always. It's usually a combination of things.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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