"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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would these be IOD's?

nkh78h

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I've had some responses that I'm how to interpret. Basically, girls I say "hi" or make small talk may do one of the following:

1. She smiles but gives no verbal response.

2. She replies, but her responses are very short.

3. She replies, but she gets quieter and quieter.

Are these IOD's, or is she just shy? I personally think that (1) is an indicator of shyness, (3) is an IOD, while (2) can be both. Thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What the hell is an IOD? Is that like an IED?

You're over analyzing.
 

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Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
 

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IOD = indicator of disinterest.

And yeah, I agree that body language is probably the best sign.
 

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nkh78h said:
IOD = indicator of disinterest.
First I've heard of that term. You know, instead of being a geek and coming up with all sorts of analysis and abbreviations for terms no one asked... why don't you just talk to her like she's a person? You know, instead of looking at her as you would an experiment.

Girls aren't that complicated. You're simply over analyzing.

Just talk to her and don't kiss her ass just because she's a girl. Don't be nice but don't be a douche. Just treat her like a regular friend and do what you would do for a regular friend (ie. no favors just because she's a girl you like).

See what happens.

blueline said:
Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
Not always. It's usually a combination of things.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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