"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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would these be IOD's?

nkh78h

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I've had some responses that I'm how to interpret. Basically, girls I say "hi" or make small talk may do one of the following:

1. She smiles but gives no verbal response.

2. She replies, but her responses are very short.

3. She replies, but she gets quieter and quieter.

Are these IOD's, or is she just shy? I personally think that (1) is an indicator of shyness, (3) is an IOD, while (2) can be both. Thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What the hell is an IOD? Is that like an IED?

You're over analyzing.
 

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Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
 

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IOD = indicator of disinterest.

And yeah, I agree that body language is probably the best sign.
 

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nkh78h said:
IOD = indicator of disinterest.
First I've heard of that term. You know, instead of being a geek and coming up with all sorts of analysis and abbreviations for terms no one asked... why don't you just talk to her like she's a person? You know, instead of looking at her as you would an experiment.

Girls aren't that complicated. You're simply over analyzing.

Just talk to her and don't kiss her ass just because she's a girl. Don't be nice but don't be a douche. Just treat her like a regular friend and do what you would do for a regular friend (ie. no favors just because she's a girl you like).

See what happens.

blueline said:
Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
Not always. It's usually a combination of things.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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