"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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would these be IOD's?

nkh78h

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I've had some responses that I'm how to interpret. Basically, girls I say "hi" or make small talk may do one of the following:

1. She smiles but gives no verbal response.

2. She replies, but her responses are very short.

3. She replies, but she gets quieter and quieter.

Are these IOD's, or is she just shy? I personally think that (1) is an indicator of shyness, (3) is an IOD, while (2) can be both. Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What the hell is an IOD? Is that like an IED?

You're over analyzing.
 

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Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
 

nkh78h

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IOD = indicator of disinterest.

And yeah, I agree that body language is probably the best sign.
 

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nkh78h said:
IOD = indicator of disinterest.
First I've heard of that term. You know, instead of being a geek and coming up with all sorts of analysis and abbreviations for terms no one asked... why don't you just talk to her like she's a person? You know, instead of looking at her as you would an experiment.

Girls aren't that complicated. You're simply over analyzing.

Just talk to her and don't kiss her ass just because she's a girl. Don't be nice but don't be a douche. Just treat her like a regular friend and do what you would do for a regular friend (ie. no favors just because she's a girl you like).

See what happens.

blueline said:
Its all in the body language, specifically eye contact.
Not always. It's usually a combination of things.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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