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Would it look awkward if I were to read a newspaper or book at a bar or Pub?

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I'm pretty much a solitary guy and go on a lot of solo outings.

Would it look awkward if I were to read a newspaper or book in a bar or Pub? Say if I were to spend a solitary evening there by myself and I got no one to talk to. I think this act would be more suited for a coffee shop.......but say you wanna get a glass of beer or wine. What do you guys think?

I think I'd sit in a less crowded area and away from all the noise especially if there showing sports games lol
 

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As a similar scenario, I often will take my laptop to a Cafe. It doesn't look awkward at all (in my opinion)
 

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I tend to hang out at Coffee shops just to read books in the evening.......places like Starbucks or local cofee shops.....

But I think I'll mix it up at a local bar just for a different environment.
 

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Go to a bar or pub and look to meet women. Bringing a book to a nightlife venue seems a bit odd. You could read a book at home.
 

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Go to a bar or pub and look to meet women. Bringing a book to a nightlife venue seems a bit odd. You could read a book at home.

What if you just wanna chill for the night and relax and be in a social environment instead?

Some dudes here are in relationships or too tired to socialize because of work obligations and would rather relax and have a private evening by themselves.
 

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Go to a bar or pub and look to meet women. Bringing a book to a nightlife venue seems a bit odd. You could read a book at home.
After reading your post, you make a good point.

I suppose there's a big difference between a Cafe and a bar/pub.
 

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I thought this idea up....because I'm looking up Flight attendant gigs for the future.

Lots of those guys live solitary lives and probably take books with them to bars and pubs to read on their downtime.
 

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What if you just wanna chill for the night and relax and be in a social environment instead?

Some dudes here are in relationships or too tired to socialize because of work obligations and would rather relax and have a private evening by themselves.
Stupidest idea ever. You can't focus or concentrate, and anyone who says they do are lying. Bars are only for social drinking. There is nothing to gain bringing a book there.
 

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No, it's not weird, do what you want. I can't really focus on reading a book after a drink or two, but a newspaper is an easy read.
 

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I saw a really good looking woman reading at a bar earlier this year. I would have opened her if the guy next to her hadnt beat me to the punch (she was several seats away)
 

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Don't you look and read stuff on your smartphone while you're at a bar sometimes?

It's literally the samething lol
A book is active learning. A smartphone is casual entertainment.
 

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Because bar lounging is a relaxing past time...for most Men

This is how I like to spend my time especially at an Uncrowded Pub.....sort of like an Airport experience but locally if you ask me.
But why do you care what other people think?
 

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Because I'd rather not come off as an anti social douchebag.

But yes you're right....I should stop really caring about what others think....aslong as Im minding my own business and not hurting anyone, Im good to go.
Most people care far more about themselves than they do about anyone else.
 

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