"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Would it look awkward if I were to read a newspaper or book at a bar or Pub?

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I'm pretty much a solitary guy and go on a lot of solo outings.

Would it look awkward if I were to read a newspaper or book in a bar or Pub? Say if I were to spend a solitary evening there by myself and I got no one to talk to. I think this act would be more suited for a coffee shop.......but say you wanna get a glass of beer or wine. What do you guys think?

I think I'd sit in a less crowded area and away from all the noise especially if there showing sports games lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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As a similar scenario, I often will take my laptop to a Cafe. It doesn't look awkward at all (in my opinion)
 

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I tend to hang out at Coffee shops just to read books in the evening.......places like Starbucks or local cofee shops.....

But I think I'll mix it up at a local bar just for a different environment.
 

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Go to a bar or pub and look to meet women. Bringing a book to a nightlife venue seems a bit odd. You could read a book at home.
 

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Go to a bar or pub and look to meet women. Bringing a book to a nightlife venue seems a bit odd. You could read a book at home.

What if you just wanna chill for the night and relax and be in a social environment instead?

Some dudes here are in relationships or too tired to socialize because of work obligations and would rather relax and have a private evening by themselves.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Go to a bar or pub and look to meet women. Bringing a book to a nightlife venue seems a bit odd. You could read a book at home.
After reading your post, you make a good point.

I suppose there's a big difference between a Cafe and a bar/pub.
 

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I thought this idea up....because I'm looking up Flight attendant gigs for the future.

Lots of those guys live solitary lives and probably take books with them to bars and pubs to read on their downtime.
 

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What if you just wanna chill for the night and relax and be in a social environment instead?

Some dudes here are in relationships or too tired to socialize because of work obligations and would rather relax and have a private evening by themselves.
Stupidest idea ever. You can't focus or concentrate, and anyone who says they do are lying. Bars are only for social drinking. There is nothing to gain bringing a book there.
 

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No, it's not weird, do what you want. I can't really focus on reading a book after a drink or two, but a newspaper is an easy read.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I saw a really good looking woman reading at a bar earlier this year. I would have opened her if the guy next to her hadnt beat me to the punch (she was several seats away)
 

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Don't you look and read stuff on your smartphone while you're at a bar sometimes?

It's literally the samething lol
A book is active learning. A smartphone is casual entertainment.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Because bar lounging is a relaxing past time...for most Men

This is how I like to spend my time especially at an Uncrowded Pub.....sort of like an Airport experience but locally if you ask me.
But why do you care what other people think?
 

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Because I'd rather not come off as an anti social douchebag.

But yes you're right....I should stop really caring about what others think....aslong as Im minding my own business and not hurting anyone, Im good to go.
Most people care far more about themselves than they do about anyone else.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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