"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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kevin1198

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Your best friend went out with a girl, then broke up with her and while he's broke up you start talking with the girl, and make a move on her, only to learn that he's fallen back into the "oneitis" trap.
he's a major AFC who's friendzoned and it's over for him, so should i go for it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bros > hoes.

even if he is an AFC, he's your BEST friend. you can always find more girls, but never backstab a BEST friend like that. Some people may disagree with me, but I personally care more about my BEST friend than some girl.

If you've read this but still want to see this girl, it really boils down to how much value you put on this friendship. Hope this helps
 

eaglez1177

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^I agree 100% with what BongDuy said
 

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BongDuy said:
bros > hoes.

even if he is an AFC, he's your BEST friend. you can always find more girls, but never backstab a BEST friend like that. Some people may disagree with me, but I personally care more about my BEST friend than some girl.

If you've read this but still want to see this girl, it really boils down to how much value you put on this friendship. Hope this helps
This. If you want to get your d1ck wet and lose your bestfriend over it, you could go for it.
 

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thanks guys, i really appreciate it.
so far, i've confronted him, and he seems ok, but i let him know that if he has any problems/ last minute decisions, then he should let me know and ill back off.
he seems cool with it, and appreciates the honesty.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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eaglez1177

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^Just so you know, just because he says hes okay with it doesn't mean hes actually okay with it. Idk man its your call but I wouldnt wanna lose my best friend over some chick.
 
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