"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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crazyman11

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Would it be a bad idea if I got together with my ex's girlfriends boyfriends ex? My ex broke up with me like 2 weeks ago, and is with another guy now. The guys ex and I started talking and i joked around about getting together with her to get back at them :D . I'm dont really wanna get back at the two, but i think she could take it seriously. I mean, i'm not gonna get together with her to make the other two mad, because in my eyes she is a legit pick up. If I get together with her, it's because i feel like she's attracted to me, and i'm quite attracted to her. Would people start thinking i'm a d!ck if i do this?

My question is if i got together with this girl, who happens to be my ex's boyfriends ex, would i look like an azzhole?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That first sentence is quite ambiguous.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alright, i think i cleared it up a little bit better. Ask questions if you're still confused
 

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No, it still says you want to get togehter with your ex-girlfriends, ex-boyfriend.

Is the situation that you want to get with the ex-girlfriend of your ex-girlfriend's former boyfriend?

Go for it. Who cares what they think.
 

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it's my ex's current boyfriends ex. Haha, yea, it's kinda hard to word. Yea, i don't really care what they think, but what about what everyone else thinks about it? Knowing my school, someone could say something and another person would hear it differently and rumors would start going around about me. You guys think i should do it? Also, there is another girl that i'm gonna see in a couple days, and i dunno if i should go for her or the other girl
 

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You shouldn't care what anybody thinks. Screw their rumors. As for the other girl, play them both. No need to limit yourself to one girl until you decide to be serious with one of them. If you haven't already, look into the plate theory. There are a million posts about it here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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