"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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would going silent for a while do me a favor?

UnsworthK

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So I've been seeing a girl for what will be 2 weeks tomorrow. we have had sex twice since and been out a few times.

The question is, if at this stage of the game, having only known her this long, would stopping calls/texts/arranging meets do me any favors, or will it just make her back off because she doesn't know me all that well anyway?

Any advice appreciated.

Cheers
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok, the reason I want to initiate this shunning is due to the fact I asked her to come round / go out last night and she said she wasn't sure if she was seeing her friend or not so I said fine just let me know.

Then I went out last night and saw her in a club I was in so I approach to say hello then she actually physically turns her back on me and acts like i'm not there, hilarious.
 

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give her the silent treatment. FOR LIFE!!!!!! you just got dissed like a b!tch.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OK, but she has my jacket, and I want it back so how am I supposed to do that?
 

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UnsworthK said:
OK, but she has my jacket, and I want it back so how am I supposed to do that?
You could just ask for your jacket. You know....like a regular person.

Fact of the matter is, your girl punked you. It's not like you have to play mind games with her at this point. The relationship is over. You just have to move forward.
 
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