"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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would going silent for a while do me a favor?

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So I've been seeing a girl for what will be 2 weeks tomorrow. we have had sex twice since and been out a few times.

The question is, if at this stage of the game, having only known her this long, would stopping calls/texts/arranging meets do me any favors, or will it just make her back off because she doesn't know me all that well anyway?

Any advice appreciated.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok, the reason I want to initiate this shunning is due to the fact I asked her to come round / go out last night and she said she wasn't sure if she was seeing her friend or not so I said fine just let me know.

Then I went out last night and saw her in a club I was in so I approach to say hello then she actually physically turns her back on me and acts like i'm not there, hilarious.
 
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give her the silent treatment. FOR LIFE!!!!!! you just got dissed like a b!tch.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OK, but she has my jacket, and I want it back so how am I supposed to do that?
 
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UnsworthK said:
OK, but she has my jacket, and I want it back so how am I supposed to do that?
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You could just ask for your jacket. You know....like a regular person.

Fact of the matter is, your girl punked you. It's not like you have to play mind games with her at this point. The relationship is over. You just have to move forward.
 
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