Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
Here's the situation a guy from my past decided to get again with my wife. Now I think my wife is using this Nice guy. What would you do in my situation?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What??? You gotta tell us more than this...vantagepoint said:Here's the situation a guy from my past decided to get again with my wife. Now I think my wife is using this Nice guy. What would you do in my situation?
To be honest, I feel like I've seen too much already.The Gambler said:What??? You gotta tell us more than this...
Exactly my pointMantis Toboggan said:To be honest, I feel like I've seen too much already.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She can be bad sometimesfloydb25 said:If she does, that makes her not a good girl. Fail.
Could be the romance that we have together regardless of religionvantagepoint said:She can be bad sometimes
:rockon:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I care because this poor guy doesn't know what he's getting into. I think he just hangs around to date one of her friends. That's why they keep him around. May there be mercy on this guy.youngmack said:Why do you care bro?
No.omega05 said:is "this guy" you?
You tell em'Danger said:It's true.
I'm the guy, but I'm having swing parties with this girl and all of her friends.
What is sad is that they are all married and their husbands don't know.
We promised years ago to stop after I had impregnated one of them. Now her and her beta-husband are raising my child.
Fast forward a few years and we all decided we just couldn't stop doing this because of one little accidental pregnancy. It was just too much fun. So here we are again. I wonder which wife I will impregnate this time?
I just think it's her way of romanceDanger said:Tell me,
In what way is your wife using this man from her past.....that does not disrespect you at the same time?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Laughing out loudAlle_Gory said:I have no idea what's going on in this thread, but my 5AM-Troll-Alarm is going off.