Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
Here's the situation a guy from my past decided to get again with my wife. Now I think my wife is using this Nice guy. What would you do in my situation?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What??? You gotta tell us more than this...vantagepoint said:Here's the situation a guy from my past decided to get again with my wife. Now I think my wife is using this Nice guy. What would you do in my situation?
To be honest, I feel like I've seen too much already.The Gambler said:What??? You gotta tell us more than this...
Exactly my pointMantis Toboggan said:To be honest, I feel like I've seen too much already.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She can be bad sometimesfloydb25 said:If she does, that makes her not a good girl. Fail.
Could be the romance that we have together regardless of religionvantagepoint said:She can be bad sometimes
:rockon:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I care because this poor guy doesn't know what he's getting into. I think he just hangs around to date one of her friends. That's why they keep him around. May there be mercy on this guy.youngmack said:Why do you care bro?
No.omega05 said:is "this guy" you?
You tell em'Danger said:It's true.
I'm the guy, but I'm having swing parties with this girl and all of her friends.
What is sad is that they are all married and their husbands don't know.
We promised years ago to stop after I had impregnated one of them. Now her and her beta-husband are raising my child.
Fast forward a few years and we all decided we just couldn't stop doing this because of one little accidental pregnancy. It was just too much fun. So here we are again. I wonder which wife I will impregnate this time?
I just think it's her way of romanceDanger said:Tell me,
In what way is your wife using this man from her past.....that does not disrespect you at the same time?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Laughing out loudAlle_Gory said:I have no idea what's going on in this thread, but my 5AM-Troll-Alarm is going off.