Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
Here's the situation a guy from my past decided to get again with my wife. Now I think my wife is using this Nice guy. What would you do in my situation?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What??? You gotta tell us more than this...vantagepoint said:Here's the situation a guy from my past decided to get again with my wife. Now I think my wife is using this Nice guy. What would you do in my situation?
To be honest, I feel like I've seen too much already.The Gambler said:What??? You gotta tell us more than this...
Exactly my pointMantis Toboggan said:To be honest, I feel like I've seen too much already.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She can be bad sometimesfloydb25 said:If she does, that makes her not a good girl. Fail.
Could be the romance that we have together regardless of religionvantagepoint said:She can be bad sometimes
:rockon:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I care because this poor guy doesn't know what he's getting into. I think he just hangs around to date one of her friends. That's why they keep him around. May there be mercy on this guy.youngmack said:Why do you care bro?
No.omega05 said:is "this guy" you?
You tell em'Danger said:It's true.
I'm the guy, but I'm having swing parties with this girl and all of her friends.
What is sad is that they are all married and their husbands don't know.
We promised years ago to stop after I had impregnated one of them. Now her and her beta-husband are raising my child.
Fast forward a few years and we all decided we just couldn't stop doing this because of one little accidental pregnancy. It was just too much fun. So here we are again. I wonder which wife I will impregnate this time?
I just think it's her way of romanceDanger said:Tell me,
In what way is your wife using this man from her past.....that does not disrespect you at the same time?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Laughing out loudAlle_Gory said:I have no idea what's going on in this thread, but my 5AM-Troll-Alarm is going off.