"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi Nicole, I'm Jason, i dont usually do this, but i'd like to see you out sometime.. (going well so far, and i should have continued with "so let me give you a call and we can go out sometime") but no no no, i had to catch a look in her eye, and then for some stupid reason i ask the question " do you have a boyfriend" to which she obviously replies "yes, i've had one for years" so i end the conversation and buy my drink.

earlier on that night i made 3 really good approaches, i got 2 numbers, but this girl was a barmaid, and it totally threw me off, and i did that, i cant believe i was so awful.


nevermind eh, she wasnt interested, so forget her.

i had a good night all the same
 

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just have fun with it and dont over analyze it
 
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yeah, im not bothered by it, im posting it mainly so other people can see what NOT to do,

i think approaching a barmaid put me off somewhat, but it shouldnt have.

nevermind eh
 
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A guy I know approached a barmaid and gave her roses and asked if she wanted to eat dinner with him. Take it easy.
 
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what's all this about? its a normal rejection, i get a lot of girls that just dont want to talk, say they have boyfriends, etc.. But others want the whole thing right in the night. So keep playing the game playa
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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my aim of this thread was to push the point about never asking the question " do you have a boyfriend" as this is the most fatal question of all time.

the rejection was fine, im just saying i made a huge error with this.
 
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that question can work sometimes. there are even girls who have but will tell you they dont have!!
 
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Jason you go to London Met dont you?
 
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You don't have to ask that question because if a girl isn't interested in you she'll say something along the lines of "I'm dating someone... or I have a boyfriend..or I'm married" - Sometimes women I have zero interest in say this right in front of me as if they are either telling me to back off of they're qualifying their stuck-up selves in front of me.

I bet those numbers you got were 1800thanks4dadrinkloser.
 
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