"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Worried about female friend . . .

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I have a friend...not a gf. She's just a friend I've known for a while. Anyways, she's getting with a guy. Now I know this guy and he's known to be one of the more....aggresive guys in our grade. I know he's just with her to get in her pants as she's a pretty girl.

Anyways, she told me that she'd be careful, but seriously...I'm kinda worried. Ok, I think I'm worrying too much, but this girl is like a sister to me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does she know he just wants in her pants?
Can you tell her you know for a fact that thats all he wants?
Do you worry cause you think he will abuse her?

You need to give a little more info here...
 

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ahh sorry man. I told her to be careful and she said that she's the most careful girl out there...despite being HAWT and falling for this guy. Anyways, I think I'll just let it go and I'm sure it'll turn out fine, althought she'll be hurting after he dumps her like all the other girls.

It pains to say this, but it's not my problem anymore. Never was.
 

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If its pretty harmless then thats what i'd do too.

Besides, thats more inscentive for her to listen to u next time when it could possibly be more serious right?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warn her the guy is a loser or whatever he is. Then back off.

I hate it when my female friends interfere with my life, but at the same time I appreciate it when they drop me info or advice.

So do the same - give her information, and let her decide what to do with it.

"People fork out billions of dollars for information - nobody gives a sh*t about opinion".
 

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It's pretty clear. Tell her your take on what the scenario is and leave her to it. But don't leave her with a "not my problem" kind of atttitude. I don't know exactly what the deal is, your post is kinda fractured, but the flow I get from it is...

Your pretty friend is with this guy you know wants to get jiggy with her and he's got a rep for the five knuckle shuffle instead of the foxtrot.

You told her to watch her ass but she's with him anyway.

You've got a "not my problem anymore, never was" attitude with her. Maybe even before anything has gone wrong. Which would make her think "spiteful ass" perhaps.

I'm not criticising you, I could be mistranslating, but I've been there before and warned a girl about some doozy of a choice she's taken on a partner and I've ended up so wound up by her surely voluntary blindness to what a bast*rd she is with that I've taken the high way of "own your own **** and don't cry to me about it." And somehow I've ended up the bad guy. Even after they break up, and get back together, and break up, and get back... Familiar, anyone?

REMEMBER: When a girl dates a bad guy she will see to it someone else takes the heat.
 

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Ahh damn man. That's hard. Well, I didn't actually say that or use that attitude with her. Just told her to watch out and think first.

I was just thinking too much about it last night and hence, I did the "not my problem anymore" attitude. ?Because I've done all I can you know? Worrying = waste of time.
 
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