Kev07
Master Don Juan
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got it. thanks
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Here's a rule of thumb.Kev07 said:sounds good when will i know if it stops working? my chest still gets sore after my chest days so i take it that i can keep going for a while longer
Quiksilver said:Use pyramid sets buddy...
Work up to your 5-rep max...
Something like this:
Set1: 10% x 8
set2: 50% x 4
set3: 90% x 1
set4: 100% x 5
set5: 105% x 5
set6: 75% x 15-20
good luck
p.s. at the end of set6, your muscles should be pumping battery acid.
Go look up Arnold lifting,that will be proof of "bigger weights don't mean bigger muscles". He never lifted monster weights,his form was perfect and he focused on quality over quantity.Call_Me_Daddy said:And for you dweebs that complain that "bigger weights don't mean bigger muscles" I say show me a dude who can bench press 700 but weighs under 200.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Arnold benched somewhere around 450lbs and up as a max bench. I forget the exact number since this is obscure info from 30 years ago. But I got something present day:blinkwatt said:Go look up Arnold lifting,that will be proof of "bigger weights don't mean bigger muscles". He never lifted monster weights,his form was perfect and he focused on quality over quantity.
Form (not "perfect" form but "correct" form) is more important than how much weight you can put up, because incorrect form causes injuries. Injuries that can put you out for potentially quite a while. I get nervous anytime someone says to a newb anything that sounds like "eh, just throw it up there, you'll figure it out."Call_Me_Daddy said:Form is important, but more weight is priority #1. Perfect form comes next.
There's a difference between having acceptable form and doing an exercise completely wrong. You can push the limit by 'cheating' a bit and breaking out of form some in order to get more weight on the bar.Throttle said:I get nervous anytime someone says to a newb anything that sounds like "eh, just throw it up there, you'll figure it out."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When I mean 450, I mean 450 for reps. Unlike powerlifters most bodybuilders dont do a 1 rep max. Its not needed for anything.blinkwatt said:Exactly,450 is not that much when you think about it. He weighted 250 in the offseason,235 during competitions. That's not even twice his own bodyweight,it's 180%. Let's see,if Mr.O benched 180% of his own bodyweight and SET THE STANDARD FOR BODYBUILDING WITH THOSE STATS what makes you think it's all about power? IT'S ALL IN THE FORM!.
Wow. You really know your fitness. Tell me Mr. Expert: If he's fat how the hell does he lift all that weight?BLAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Sorry but he is fatass,I would rather be lean and lift 1/4 as much then be built like that. Don't get me wrong he lifts ALOT,but look at his build........!.
Yes, form should be 1st if you want to be built like a girl.Form should be no.1 any time,quality over quantity.
Well there goes the: "But he's FAT!!" argument.blinkwatt said:Who would have thought? I have been lifting hard and dieting for six months compared to his 12 years in the lifting business=24 times as long as I have.
That was pending if you read, "blink, if Brian Siders dieted down to your leanness". I still hold my statement that he is very fat.Call_Me_Daddy said:Well there goes the: "But he's FAT!!" argument.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You obviously never seen fat before. Well here it is: http://fantasyfeeder.com/cms/infusi...to_pic.php?member_id=3403&rowstart=0&gender=0blinkwatt said:I still hold my statement that he is very fat.
BAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Thear she blows! Thanks for the laugh.Call_Me_Daddy said:You obviously never seen fat before. Well here it is:
You mean the 160lb ripped guy in your gym?blinkwatt said:WOW! Let me ask you this,have you had bodybuilders offer for you to lift w/ them because they know your on the right track and want to help you accel? I don't talk out my butt.
I'm over 15% and i'm not fat.blinkwatt said:BAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Thear she blows! Thanks for the laugh.
Let's be honest anything over 15%ish is overweight/border line fat, and he is easily 20%+. Again,a good idea of bodyfat, http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101881 .
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.