"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Working Out More or Less Pic OPINIONS?
- Thread starter nan3109
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I never said it was easy. It's pretty much been my life for the last 3 years. I got tested with calipers at 10% but those aren't always accurate. It's possible I could be 12% but I have pretty good abs.Originally posted by jakethasnake
I'm not mad,or jealous. In fact, I have no desire to be 205 at 5'9". I'd be happy with around 160-170 pounds very VERY lean muscle. Right now, I'm at 165 with around 11-12% bodyfat, I think. I can see my musculature under a bit of fat, but I'm gonna continue bulking til I hit 170-175, then slice it down to 160-165.
Honestly though - do you have *ANY* idea how incredibly difficult it is for a sub-5'9" man to actually get to 200+ pounds of lean-n-mean, sliced to da bone muscle? If you're 5'8" and 205 pounds with single-digit bodyfat, we're talking close to pro-am bodybuilding level, or at least almost there. If you say it's easy, you're talking out of yo' fawkin' ass, man.
A tall man 5'11" - 6'2"+ can easily clear 200 after some mass building because he just has a bigger 'chassis' (skeleton) to begin with. But for a 5'8" guy to weigh 205 in very lean muscle? That's something that's either amazing or rather hard to believe (i.e. unbelievable genetics for packing on mass). Most guys who claim very large numbers are slighty- to-quite a bit overweight. Have you guys seen those IFBB bodybuilders during their off-season bulking phases? They look like their made of cookie dough - all huge and soft and pudgy. And they weigh a LOT MORE - when they slice it down to the bone just pre-contest, they easily weigh 20-30 pounds less than they did while looking like a fat-ass during the bulking phase.
So naturally, when guys claim almost unreal numbers (i.e. I'm 225 pounds at 5'10" and 9% bodyfat!") I want to see a damn pic! I really don't think I'm being that unreasonable.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Damn dude, are you a professional bodybuilder?
might i suggest bootcamp? it seems to be working so far for me. im no longer afraid to approach anyone and start up a conversation. in fact, it seems almost natural to ask for a number now after a short conversation.
seabreeze
Master Don Juan
To the OP, I'm a girl and I think you look fine. You look at little younger than your age, but otherwise fine. I'd say you'd fall somewhere in the pretty boy category, but oftentimes pretty boys are just not that sexy to most women. They're good to look at but they don't create that feeling of lust. An avergae guy can do that sometimes easier than a pretty boy. For example, most of the women I know think Billy Bob Thornton is one of the most f--kable men alive! I kid you not. If he were in the same room with me I'm sure I'd be all over him, and possibly out of control. Now, Brad Pitt, on the otherhand is something good to look at, but is just not really sexy. Ya know what I mean? Billy Bob looks dirty, ya know naughty. Brad looks polished like a piece of china that you don't want to break or make dirty.
So, maybe you should grow a little facial hair, look a little more unkept, then you would look less pretty boy and more manly and lusty. I don't know just my opinion.
Seabreeze
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jakethasnake
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Well HE'S making a big deal of it, not me. I just said that you're almost at pro-AM level. Not pro. A 5'8" IFBB pro (many are actually that height) would probably weigh about 235-255 with 5-6% bodyfat (nasty).
Read my new thread in the tips section, specifically about college pickups...It might be able to help you out.
ShizamDaMan
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Really dude, even fat ugly dudes can pull girls if their game is good.
bootlegger
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You did this **** for attention.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
affliction
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frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
10 percent body fat.
dude for mass get bigger
as for ladies..you look like what they want.
keep it up
cheers!
and good luck to everyone here working out..its a lot harder than the outsiders think!
Player_Supreme
Banned
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/homo.gif
Cause that is how he made your photos turn out. Not saying that you are or anything...cause that would be stupid for one of those things to come onto this site trolling for some dyck.
Real dumb!!!
Good luck with your modeling. Be careful of the faggots in that industry.
Player_Supreme
Banned
Exactly look at me:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/cman2.jpg
just a bit taller and larger and I pull.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most of my friends in high school were labled pretty boys, and hell, 3 of them turned out to come out of the closet when they turned 18. But not me, im strictly a vagina man.Originally posted by seabreeze
Um, guys, why do some of you guys post your pictures on threads and ask for each other's opinions? I think Arexs started a thread like this and I posted on it and I think it freaked him out or something. Shouldn't you guys be concerned with what women would think and not other guys? I'm just curious.
To the OP, I'm a girl and I think you look fine. You look at little younger than your age, but otherwise fine. I'd say you'd fall somewhere in the pretty boy category, but oftentimes pretty boys are just not that sexy to most women. They're good to look at but they don't create that feeling of lust. An avergae guy can do that sometimes easier than a pretty boy. For example, most of the women I know think Billy Bob Thornton is one of the most f--kable men alive! I kid you not. If he were in the same room with me I'm sure I'd be all over him, and possibly out of control. Now, Brad Pitt, on the otherhand is something good to look at, but is just not really sexy. Ya know what I mean? Billy Bob looks dirty, ya know naughty. Brad looks polished like a piece of china that you don't want to break or make dirty.
So, maybe you should grow a little facial hair, look a little more unkept, then you would look less pretty boy and more manly and lusty. I don't know just my opinion.
Seabreeze
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
How representative of all females is this, though? And what age range are you in? I thought girls generally tend to find Brad Pitt incredibly sexy.Originally posted by seabreeze
Um, guys, why do some of you guys post your pictures on threads and ask for each other's opinions? I think Arexs started a thread like this and I posted on it and I think it freaked him out or something. Shouldn't you guys be concerned with what women would think and not other guys? I'm just curious.
To the OP, I'm a girl and I think you look fine. You look at little younger than your age, but otherwise fine. I'd say you'd fall somewhere in the pretty boy category, but oftentimes pretty boys are just not that sexy to most women. They're good to look at but they don't create that feeling of lust. An avergae guy can do that sometimes easier than a pretty boy. For example, most of the women I know think Billy Bob Thornton is one of the most f--kable men alive! I kid you not. If he were in the same room with me I'm sure I'd be all over him, and possibly out of control. Now, Brad Pitt, on the otherhand is something good to look at, but is just not really sexy. Ya know what I mean? Billy Bob looks dirty, ya know naughty. Brad looks polished like a piece of china that you don't want to break or make dirty.
So, maybe you should grow a little facial hair, look a little more unkept, then you would look less pretty boy and more manly and lusty. I don't know just my opinion.
Seabreeze
You just contradicted yourself. "Latter" refers to the second of two propostions, "former" refers to the first.
But forget the grammar lesson. Looks aren't your problem. There is no guy that 100% of women will find attractive, but there are plenty of girls who would find you attractive. End of story.
ER!C L!VE
Master Don Juan
I got approached sometimes, but not often. MOST girls just weren't into me being all big like that.
Now, I'm 160lbs and shredded and girls seem to be giving me MUCH MUCH better responses.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.