working on girls that are constantly "packaged" with a friend

[mungro]

I recently started med school, its been two weeks. I've noticed one interesting and pretty annoying trend that the girls here seem to be doing with alarming frequency. Every girl it seems here at school is packaged with a "girlfriend" who never seems to leave their side. So you always end up talking with two girls at once, and then hanging out with two girls at once, and then going out with two girls at once which is fine... but I think I can count nearly 10 pairs of girls now that I can't seem to get any viable alone time with.

Also it seems like every time I seem attracted to a girl, her "other part" always seems more attracted to me. Is this some sort of insidious defense strategy?

So far, my plan the first couple of weeks has been to play it casual and fun. I'm always nice to both girls, flirting with both, and always saying things like, "let's hang out" or "you guys should come over" and leaving the invitations open ended. I make an effort to try to show social affection to both but always keeping my real target in mind...

My idea is, if both girls think I'm a great guy... it can't hurt my chances when I try to engage my real target... The question is, how do I engage one girl while shrugging the other one off? A lot of times these girls are roomates... so its awkward. Advice needed, thanks.

 

[DJDanny]

and as a farther extension of this how about that unwritten rule that if one friend likes you then the rest of her friends can;t even if you have no interest in her. Damn CBs.

 

[coldcoal]

You have to expand the gathering to more than the three of you and you have to be sure there are a few mutual friends there to keep the third wheel socially involved. You basically want to create an atmosphere where you can ease your target to the side without the friend going into an "I'm alone" panic attack and hunt you two down when you're working the alone time.

 

[mungro]

Thanks for the advice,


DJDanny,
God, I hope that unwritten rule doesn't really always apply. Girls can be so stupid.

coldcoal
Good tip man, I guess I'm going to have to play it day by day. What your saying is, I need to produce more one or more wingmen to distract the "other girl". I don't always have friends around to play the wingman part... As you may imagine, i spend a lot of time doing work... so I try to engage in conversations at the library, stores, places to eat out... etc. But, I think I catch your drift.

 

[allan976]

How about this: on your way to a date with both, pick up one of them so the two of you have time alone before meeting up as a group. Or, regardless of who's driving, make sure that one girl gets dropped off first (the girl you like least) so that you're alone with the girl you're actually interested in for the latter half of the trip.

Actually, if the girls are hot for you, they may exploit one or both of the strategies themselves.

Also, it's important to befriend not only the HB but their average or below average looking girlfriends: they will definitely be talking amongst themselves and forming a consensus about how desirable you are, so you do have to be diplomatic and at least friendly with both the UG and the HB.