"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what do you guys think about cover letters? I haven't used one.

Basically I respond to a craigslist and say "hi I'm responding to (xyz) I currently work for sweatshop. I have extensive experience with this. Attached is my resume and a link to my online portofolio, thanks"

I guess I could flesh it out a little more, but my resume itself has an objective in it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I made a cold-call today to someone, they aren't looking but it felt good to talk about getting a new job and to hear someone else be interested in what I'm doing.
Have you posted your resume on Monster? I would highly recommend it.
 

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what do you guys think about cover letters? I haven't used one.

Basically I respond to a craigslist and say "hi I'm responding to (xyz) I currently work for sweatshop. I have extensive experience with this. Attached is my resume and a link to my online portofolio, thanks"

I guess I could flesh it out a little more, but my resume itself has an objective in it.
I've actually never used a cover letter when responding to a posting on Craigslist. In the body of the email, I do exactly what you just did, although in a more formal manner.

I just say "Attached, please find my resume, which I'm sending in response to your posting for [job description here]. I believe that [3 descriptive attributes relating to experience and/or degrees] would make me an excellent fit for this position"

Part of the reason I don't use a cover letter is that, as a hiring manager, I look at a lot of resumes, and I almost always go straight to experience, and educational background.
 

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I haven't joined monster. I mean I look at the postings they have, I'm not sure what joining does.

I've looked at their postings and craigslist has way more jobs. I don't know why since monster is so popular.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What about salary history? I've worked at the same place six years. Don't you negotiate that?

"I currently earn $$$"?
 

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Sidebar: when applying for jobs via email (95%) the email is the cover letter. Craigslist isn't very big in Canada though.
 

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I haven't joined monster. I mean I look at the postings they have, I'm not sure what joining does.

I've looked at their postings and craigslist has way more jobs. I don't know why since monster is so popular.
When you post your resume on Monster, it gets read by recruiters. That is one of the best ways to get job offers. The recruiters read your resume, and call you.

Right now, you're reading job postings, and responding to them. But when you post your resume, you will get people calling you.

Do yourself a favor, and post your resume. Let them come to you.
 

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What about salary history? I've worked at the same place six years. Don't you negotiate that?

"I currently earn $$$"?
I wait until you're in an interview, and asked about that. I would not suggest including that in a cover letter/email. I would wait until you get into at least a first interview to ask about comp, and what you're currently getting comped.
 

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I wait until you're in an interview, and asked about that. I would not suggest including that in a cover letter/email. I would wait until you get into at least a first interview to ask about comp, and what you're currently getting comped.
Unless its stated in the posting to state your salary expectations. Then its a test and you need to answer it. I always put a 10k range in there on questions like that though.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Unless its stated in the posting to state your salary expectations. Then its a test and you need to answer it. I always put a 10k range in there on questions like that though.
Well the one I'm looking at now says to include my salary history. Are you saying to round up?
 

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Unless its stated in the posting to state your salary expectations. Then its a test and you need to answer it. I always put a 10k range in there on questions like that though.
Personally, I avoid situations where they choose to use salary expectations as a screen during the initial application process. I very much prefer to negotiate once they've 'bought into' the idea of me. If you must do that, then yes, I'd put in a loose range.
 

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Personally, I avoid situations where they choose to use salary expectations as a screen during the initial application process. I very much prefer to negotiate once they've 'bought into' the idea of me. If you must do that, then yes, I'd put in a loose range.
Guys I appreciate you helping me out here, I'm about to apply in a minute to another one.

So say I earn $1,562. a year. Do I say "I currently earn $1,600 a year"?

Are you saying you prefer to not work for a company that asks up front? I've noticed many say "include salary history".

I'm very much inclined to just attach my portfolio samples and just leave the money out of it, even though they're asking.
 

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If they ask, then I would put in a range and say depending on responsibilities. Many HR departments put the question in there for 2 reasons, to see if you have enough stones to answer the question, some depts will automatically toss out your application if you don't answer it. Secondly, they want to see how much you value yourself. Finally they want to exclude people who are overpriced (out of their price range) and people who undervalue themselves.

Thats just my experience though and I'm Canadian. Not sure of how much different it is in the US, even though most things are very similar.
 

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So to clarify, "I am currently seeking a salary of $1,600 to $2,600 depending on job responsibilities"?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I would annualize it. aka $35 000 to $45 000 or whatever your range is. But basically exactly what you said except the annual amount.
 

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Reset, in your situation, I would keep in mind that your top priority is a place where you can grow beyond your current circumstances.

If you really do have to talk about compensation, I would say, "My current annual compensation is $X. In my new role, I'm looking for a compensation package between $X and ($X+10%). My top priority is job responsibilities and a place where I can personally and professional grow."

Let them know that you're thinking about things other than money. They like that.
 

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I agree with Mike about adding the part about responsibilites, its great. However I wouldn't say how much your earning now.
 

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Well, if he's going to apply to a situation where they're requiring salary history, rather than salary expectations, I would add it.

Again, I hate engaging employers on Monster or CL that ask for that, but if it's a must, I have to assume that if he doesn't include it, he risks having his application discarded.

Reset, are you being asked to submit salary history, or just salary expectations?
 

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Done. Thanks for your help guys. I will include the price for this one, no it's not just about money. So here I go sending off another resume.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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