"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I know what your thinking Dont dip the pen in the company ink, But the girl is really cute. Heres the problem, Girl is giving me a lot of KINO, sex talk, EC, etc. But When I finally ask her out she denies, and I think she denies because my coworkers are around and I have a rep for dating a lot of girls and playing them. So, when she denies how should I act? should I freeze her out for like a couple days or should I act like it did not effect me and try again when I isolate her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She sounds like an attention *****. She does all these great things (e.g., Kino, eye contact, etc.) and when you finally ask her out, she flat-out refuses? You either responded to these actions wrong initially or she's just doing all of this for attention.

Most likely the latter. Best thing to do is to hang out with other female co-workers, talk to them, be seen talking with them, and sort of distance yourself from this girl (remain polite, though). Quit visiting her office/cubicle; quit offering her lunch, etc. Just focus on the other females and work.
 

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Originally posted by psychgrad
I dont do anything nice for her.
Attention is all they want, whether you're being nice or not.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Does it matter that she lives 40 miles away and I was asking her to go out with me near my house, so on her day off she would have to drive?
 
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