"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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work and women (not about dating at work)

Heretolearn

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Gentlemen,

What are your thoughts/experiences/tips on how work affects you? I have been working long stressful hours lately and although my libido/interest seems high, I have very little tolerance/energy to go out.

I am happy how work is proceeding though. Have you guys managed a balance or do you work hard/play later?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Victory Unlimited

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Mental, physical, and emotional energy are not items that are in limitless supply. So you should let your current priorities dictate where you apply your energy, how often you apply your energy, and how MUCH energy you need to apply to women OR work.

The company of women should be either be an energy booster to you or they should be a stress-relief valve to you. The best case scenario would be if they were BOTH. But a good rule of thumb to know when your women/work ratio is out of balance is when you DREAD the thought of one over the other.

Hope this helps.

V.U.
 

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Victory Unlimited said:
Mental, physical, and emotional energy are not items that are in limitless supply. So you should let your current priorities dictate where you apply your energy, how often you apply your energy, and how MUCH energy you need to apply to women OR work.

The company of women should be either be an energy booster to you or they should be a stress-relief valve to you. The best case scenario would be if they were BOTH. But a good rule of thumb to know when your women/work ratio is out of balance is when you DREAD the thought of one over the other.

Hope this helps.

V.U.
solid tip, thank you
 
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