"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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work and women (not about dating at work)

Heretolearn

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Gentlemen,

What are your thoughts/experiences/tips on how work affects you? I have been working long stressful hours lately and although my libido/interest seems high, I have very little tolerance/energy to go out.

I am happy how work is proceeding though. Have you guys managed a balance or do you work hard/play later?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mental, physical, and emotional energy are not items that are in limitless supply. So you should let your current priorities dictate where you apply your energy, how often you apply your energy, and how MUCH energy you need to apply to women OR work.

The company of women should be either be an energy booster to you or they should be a stress-relief valve to you. The best case scenario would be if they were BOTH. But a good rule of thumb to know when your women/work ratio is out of balance is when you DREAD the thought of one over the other.

Hope this helps.

V.U.
 

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Victory Unlimited said:
Mental, physical, and emotional energy are not items that are in limitless supply. So you should let your current priorities dictate where you apply your energy, how often you apply your energy, and how MUCH energy you need to apply to women OR work.

The company of women should be either be an energy booster to you or they should be a stress-relief valve to you. The best case scenario would be if they were BOTH. But a good rule of thumb to know when your women/work ratio is out of balance is when you DREAD the thought of one over the other.

Hope this helps.

V.U.
solid tip, thank you
 
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