"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Woot! First date!

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Woot! I used the text message game to organize a date with this girl I met a few nights ago.

We're having coffee and shes "helping me get gifts for my sisters/cousins" lol

Any advice?

It seriously like my first real date ever. :rock:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Also, I am aiming for kiss. How can I play that in this scenario?

When i first see her, i plan to do cheek kiss, what else can I do to lead up to kiss?
 
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Coffee plus xmas shopping is a nice simple first date idea. Kudos.

Some simple guidelines:
- Be yourself but show your funny side, make her laugh and make sure she enjoys your company.
- Plenty of kino (touching, hugging, etc) whenever the opportunity presents itself. (Cheek kiss is a great start)
- If you two get on at all well, it is essential that you kiss her before the date ends. She will be expecting it (and will be insulted if you don't - trust me on this). Your job is to pluck up the courage to move in. It doesn't matter how, where or when. Just do it. If she likes you, she will kiss you back gratefully. If she resists, it's because she's just not into you.
 
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Dude thanks for psyching me up! lol


Could we just sit down somewhere like on a park bench, put my arm around her, then after a bit, kiss?
 
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spax said:
Dude thanks for psyching me up! lol


Could we just sit down somewhere like on a park bench, put my arm around her, then after a bit, kiss?
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Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but don't expect anything, because you will probably get disapointed.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DON'T kiss her on the first date!

Take that pressure off yourself completely, its your first ever date with a girl and you REALLY, REALLY don't need it.

Simply concentrate on having a fun time, keep the conversation light and make her giggle.

'IF' shes interested she won't be put off that you didn't kiss her.

I have this vision of you trying so hard to see an opportunity to kiss her that you'll come across as completely nervous and awkward.

Relax, have fun and let things happen naturally.
 
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