Women who vilify and demonize you for no good reason.

[CaptFinnBad]

So I just experienced this. Was seeing this woman for a couple months. It wasn't going to work (I saw it, she saw it)..

So decided to be friends and carrying having s3x because we had an awesome time together.

Then suddenly out of no where I'm being made out to be a villain.

Giving the dumbest reasons why I'm bad new, she's really clutching on straws.

I think her girlfriends have convinced her of something or a new guy has entered the picture.

But yeah. Why do some women do this ?

I genuinely didn't do anything bad. Do they actually believe their own bull****?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's what is required for them to stop thinking about you in that way and detach. They have to poison you in their mind.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Then suddenly out of no where I'm being made out to be a villain

-What exactly did she accuse you of?

-Is there a grain of truth to what's she said, even if she's exaggerating, as most of humans do, when we're angry and hurt?

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Captain,
It's an outlet for their aggression,which is a reflection of the many frustrations in their lives....Take a look at Rickys latest post...Many of them always have to have someone in their gun sights,as Ricky says,make sure it's not you.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

-What exactly did she accuse you of?

-Is there a grain of truth to what's she said, even if she's exaggerating, as most of humans do, when we're angry and hurt?

My dog. She was begging me to stay the night. She was being super clingy but I had to get home to my dog.

So I said I'd be able to stay over if I was able to bring my dog with me on the weekend and id be able to help her sort her garden if I was there (something she was struggling with on her own ).

She loves my dog but stated she didn't want my dog in her house in the past (he's never been there ).

Her response to my suggestion said she didn't really want him there, I thought no big deal, understandable , Totally fine with her response. Just meant I couldn't stay over without my dog as I can't leave him home overnight on his own.

The rest of the evening was amazing. Didn't mention it again. Super into me. Tried to keep me there a little longer than planned by intuition s3x, I eventually went home.

Super sweet goodbye from her.

Next day I get texts about "breakings boundaries" , I'm manipulative, selfish for suggesting I could stay over if I was able to bring my dog with me on the weekend.


Then started to bring up stuff from weeks ago. Things that didn't make sense.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Hi Captain,
It's an outlet for their aggression,which is a reflection of the many frustrations in their lives....Take a look at Rickys latest post...Many of them always have to have someone in their gun sights,as Ricky says,make sure it's not you.

She definitely has a few struggles going on in her life.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

That's what is required for them to stop thinking about you in that way and detach. They have to poison you in their mind.

This is basically it. I just don't get it though. It's such a childish way of thinking.

The situation with this woman could be summed up as. We're definitely not compatible long term , we both know it.

S3x is out of this world, we have so much fun together.

We had the most amazing night together in and out bed which brought up a feeling of closeness and connection in her. She knows this isn't meant to last. So caused an internal conflict in her.

To break this she turns me into a make believe villain to cut ties.

I know it was always going to be a temporary thing until one of us moved on but being made out to be a villain for no good reason feels so messed up you know ?

Especially by someone you've treated with respect and been a decent person too.

I guess I'm just starting to grow tired of this type of stuff.

 

[Pumax]

@Desdinova's point theory might play a role here.

What you went through, I saw a woman go through with a friend of mine, just because the opportunity to get back together with her ex presented itself. Then, She reacted that way.

Unfortunately, you weren't her number 1

 

[Chow Mein]

This is basically it. I just don't get it though. It's such a childish way of thinking.

The situation with this woman could be summed up as. We're definitely not compatible long term , we both know it.

S3x is out of this world, we have so much fun together.

We had the most amazing night together in and out bed which brought up a feeling of closeness and connection in her. She knows this isn't meant to last. So caused an internal conflict in her.

To break this she turns me into a make believe villain to cut ties.

I know it was always going to be a temporary thing until one of us moved on but being made out to be a villain for no good reason feels so messed up you know ?

Especially by someone you've treated with respect and been a decent person too.

I guess I'm just starting to grow tired of this type of stuff.

What made you initially realize it was not going to be long-term?

 

[ThisIsSparta]

What made you initially realize it was not going to be long-term?

Shes a gold digger...... told him he is not going to meet her standards and financial expectations for her future.

Do they actually believe their own bull****?

Oh yes, they really do.

They can convince themselves of ANYTHING and they can MAKE you the love of their life or the greatest azzhole they ever had..... sometimes both.

Logic doesnt play a role here. Its just about her emotions and how she copes with them.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Do they actually believe their own bull****?

Yes, yes they do.

It's a defense mechanism.

One of her friends might have covertly suggested she was a slooze for going from relationship to FWB.

 

[Smok1nAce]

For many years I got this reaction from women and I still do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This goes to back to not worrying about things you can't control.

Nothing you can do about it, so don't spend any time letting this clutter your mind...just accept this is how it works and focus your attention on things within your control.

 

[Clockwerk50]

What probably happened is this: people, especially women, will often spend weeks or months quietly sensing little shifts in your energy. They might feel like they’re no longer a priority, like something is off, like the attention isn’t the same anymore. They may not fully understand why they feel this way, but once that emotional shift happens, it’s already over for them. They just start looking for reasons to justify leaving. And when they finally do, they’ll grab at whatever story makes you look like the villain because it helps them walk away without guilt.

What you missed is that the dog situation probably wasn’t about the dog. It was about what the dog represented to her: that you were always going to have a reason not to stay the night, that she wasn’t first in your life, that you’d never fully commit. Maybe the sex and the time you spent together weren’t as good for her as you thought. Maybe she was hoping for more and felt you weren’t going to give it. Maybe she felt second to your dog, and that stung more than she let on. She probably sat with those feelings for a while, and that’s when the resentment started to build.

Your mistake was thinking it was “all good” because the night ended well. People can have a great time with you and still feel unresolved under the surface. The break didn’t actually come “out of nowhere”; the signs were there, but you didn’t catch them. You were probably too focused on the practical side (“I can’t stay because of my dog”) without realizing the emotional message she was getting (“I’ll never be your priority”).

At least it ended now instead of dragging a lingering death to your relationship and you were just not “ghosted”.

 

[Pumax]

This goes to back to not worrying about things you can't control.

Nothing you can do about it, so don't spend any time letting this clutter your mind...just accept this is how it works and focus your attention on things within your control.

We can't control it, but we can understand why they do it, and why they need it so much.
For us men, who are able to internalize it to grow, they seem to push it away and move on.

It's as if the man treats the poison as an antidote for the next time it happens, while the woman eliminates the poison

 

[The Duke]

They vilify you because they are weak individuals. It's how they protect their fragile ego's. Blame someone else and they don't have to accept any accountability.

Many of them behave this way.

And almost always, the issue they bring up(caring for your dog) in the moment is not what really bothers them as @Clockwerk50 pointed out.

Always be thankful these women show their true colors before you are committed to them.

 

[Pumax]

these women

This assumes that not all women will behave like this.

 

[Solomon]

So I just experienced this. Was seeing this woman for a couple months. It wasn't going to work (I saw it, she saw it)..

So decided to be friends and carrying having s3x because we had an awesome time together.

Then suddenly out of no where I'm being made out to be a villain.

Giving the dumbest reasons why I'm bad new, she's really clutching on straws.

I think her girlfriends have convinced her of something or a new guy has entered the picture.

But yeah. Why do some women do this ?

I genuinely didn't do anything bad. Do they actually believe their own bull****?

I literally just had this happen to me this weekend because I didn't text her back fast enough, mind you I was little sick this weekend,, and she got butthurt and started accusing me of using her for "Fun" I mean it totally came left field and unhinged, the text messages just sounded like projection and pure narcissism. I'm not sure if she wasn't using as an excuse to end the tyrst or if she is mentally ill; regardless, I blocked her.

On To The Next....

 

[BillyPilgrim]

She was being super clingy

Learn to get a feel for the Clingers (i.e. the Anxious Preoccupied types), avoid them and this BS gets cut right in half.

There should be a football team somewhere called the Clingers, they are more of a threat to everyday men than Patriots, 49ers, Chiefs, Cowboys etc. They maul and suffocate you as well as any bear can. At least the Chicago team got it right.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Blame someone else and they don't have to accept any accountability.

Especially in this victimhood happy culture we're immersed in today, where even entertaining thoughts to the effect of "Is this MOSTLY the other person's fault, or am at least 50% responsible for things going to sh-t as horribly as they have?" is now more heretical than walking through the streets of Riyadh and Tehran, questioning the infallibility of The Koran out loud

Be prepared to hunt long and hard to find folks(be they mates, wait staff, or business partners)who haven't fallen for this particular myth