Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Women who neglect admitting they have kids on dating sites

tryst type

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Wtf man, I think this is worse than deception through angular pics.

Happened three times now, hitting it off thinking there HAS to be a catch then non-chalantly a mention about their kids.

Now I'm not against kids and I know some guys don't mind chicks who have them but for me I prefer they don't and it ruins the attraction. Well for girls under 28 it does anyway.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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abe0

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I went out with one lady on her profile she stated she had one older kid. By the time we were finished with dinner she had told about the other three kids ...a total of 4...that were living at home. Now, I am more direct in asking about their family life and kids irrespective of what their profile might say.
Abe
 

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If she's not up front about her children in her profile then I wonder what other things she's concealing from you.
 

dasein

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Use it as a screen, have experienced this many times OLD and simply don't tolerate it any more. Out at the first whiff of it. Many of them consider 2" of height a big deal yet see no obligation to disclose children, utter hypocrisy.
 

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I don't see this as a problem at all. You can pump 'n dump such women without even the slightest pang of conscience.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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movistar

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Yea, if a woman is not owning up to the kids, she is junk
 

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Online dating is a lot like ocean trawling. You cast a wide net and get lots of catch---crabs, mollusks, decent fish, maybe a gem or two but mostly sea junk. That trawling net is your screen: you toss the garbage and keep the value.
 

MatureDJ

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Bokanovsky said:
I don't see this as a problem at all. You can pump 'n dump such women without even the slightest pang of conscience.
Unless of course you increment her motherhood score ... :nervous:
 

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Many women will not say they have kids until they've got you involved emotionally so you dont leave them but some will say they do and give the guy a take it or leave it deal. For me personally, I will not date or get with a woman who already has children, I'm sorry but i will not raise some other man's child. When i look at the young boy/girl i want to KNOW that its MY son or daughter.
 

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If they're just looking for a casual arrangement then I can be a bit more lenient about them withholding that information - it's not all that relevant. But let's face it, they're usually deathly serious about getting into a legit relationship.

What really tuns me off is when a woman constructs her entire online persona around being a mother. Oh that's real appealing, tell me more about your children and how freakin special they are. This is supposed to stimulate romantic and sexual interest in a man??? Genius.

The place to mention your kids is in the vital stats/details, no need to bang on about it in the actual profile. I appreciate it when a woman with kids downplays the whole motherhood angle and presents herself as a more complete human being.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bokanovsky

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MatureDJ said:
Unless of course you increment her motherhood score ... :nervous:
Not an issue if you're wrapping it up (which you should always be doing in any event).
 
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